Top 10 Quotes on The Disciplines of a Godly Woman

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Discipline is a daily goal in marriage.  If you let your guard down, the enemy (who happens to really hate marriage) slips in and causes all sorts of havoc.  That’s why when I ran across a book called Disciplines of a Godly Woman I picked it up and took it home with me.  It was not easy reading — you see, I am at heart a selfish person.  I would much rather sit on the couch and eat oreos than read a book about being disciplined.  But, I love my husband, and I want our marriage to work.  So, I read the book from cover to cover.

This book was written by Barbara Hughes, who has over 40 years of experience as a wife, mother, and women’s ministry leader.  She doesn’t mince words — she honestly explains that being a godly woman will require me to say “no” to myself and “yes” to God and my husband.

Here are my top 10 quotes from the book:

1.  “All the disciplines of a godly woman are about submitting your will to God’s loving rule in daily life.  Reject the popular voices that entice you to put your needs first, to protect your self-interest and rights, to push at God-given boundaries.” p. 40

2.  On Prayer:  “We must always be looking up, even when driving to work or cleaning the house.” p. 48

3.  “Every woman who calls herself a Christian must understand that worship is the ultimate priority on her life.  Worship is what God wants from you and from me — every day.  Jesus made this clear when He chided busy, frenetic Martha when she was so critical of her sister’s sitting at Jesus’ feet…Mary chose the better part, and so can we.  pp. 62-63

4.  “The godly woman’s discipline of the mind is achieved through serious and continual exposure to God’s Word…This is all-important:  You can never have a Christian mind without regular reading of the Scriptures and serious Bible study.  Why is this?  Because you cannot be profoundly influenced by what you don’t know.  If you are filled with God’s Word, your life can then be informed and directed by God — your relationships at home, your parenting, your career, your ethical decisions, your internal moral life.” pp. 71-72

5.  “The rare jewel of contentment will be yours when all that God is and all that He has done in Christ Jesus fills your heart.  We may lack many things in this world, but as godly women we must work to develop the discipline of contentment.” p. 87

6.  “…in Christ, our life is not about what we get, but what we give.  Life is about living in submission to His will regardless of what it may cost us.  God’s will for women since the beginning is to nurture… To live out life as a nurturer in this self-centered, godless culture will cost you.  But the rewards…are rich indeed.”  p. 167

7. “Women were created for relationship!  But it’s important for us to see that it’s our sovereign God who is ordering all of life, including our many relationships.  Our friendships and even our casual encounters are not just social accidents.  God put us in our particular families, neighborhoods, and workplaces for a reason:  He has put us next to people He wants us to influence for Christ.”  p. 195

8.  On Giving:  “…we are cultivating some level of wealth, often without realizing the pitfalls:  a growing delusion that this world is everything, that someday we’ll be content, that we ought to give our family everything ‘more and better,’ that our relationships will be enhanced by money and things, that wealth will make us better people.  Do riches have a hidden grip on your heart?  Materialism has taken its subtle toll on many unwitting Christian women.”  p. 199-200

9.  “The disciplined godly woman rids herself of associations, habits, and attitudes that impede godliness.  Then she invests her energy in the pursuit of godliness.”  p. 211

10.  “The Gospel woman’s greatest wisdom and impetus comes from her understanding of grace.  Everything in this life comes from God’s grace — grace alone! …Sisters, as we attempt to do God’s will, He always gives more grace.”  pp. 214-215

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Top 10 Quotes on a Sacred Marriage

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Almost four years ago, I bought an outrageously expensive white dress and walked down an aisle to exchange vows with my best friend.  One of the songs played during our wedding was “Center” by Charlie Hall.  Our prayer still remains that Christ will be the center of our marriage.  This is a commitment that requires a daily investment — it’s an intentional choice to put your spouse and others first.  I am so thankful that I made that choice four years ago.

One way that I work to stay invested in improving my marriage is by reading Christian non-fiction books on the subject.  A favorite read for me was Sacred Marriage by Gary Thomas.  Today, I am going to share “the goodness” with you.  This book is so rich… it is a “must” read.

Here are my top 10 quotes from the book:

1.  “What if God designed marriage to make us holy more than to make us happy?”  p. 13

2.  “Strong Christian marriages will be struck by lightning — sexual temptation, communication problems, frustrations, unrealized expectations–but if the marriages are heavily watered with an unwavering commitment to please God above everything else, the conditions won’t be ripe for a devastating fire to follow the lightning strike.” p. 36

3.  “Allow your marriage relationship to stretch your love and to enlarge your capacity for love–to teach you to be a Christian.  Use marriage as a practice court, where you learn to accept another person and serve him or her.” p.42

4.  “While many people fight to receive respect, Christian marriage calls for us to focus our efforts on giving respect.  We are called to honor someone even when we know only too well their deepest character flaws.  We are called to stretch ourselves, to find out how we can learn to respect this person with whom we’ve become so familiar.” p. 55

5.  “Marriage can force us to become stronger people, because if we want to maintain a strong prayer life as married partners, we must learn to forgive.  We must become expert reconcilers.”  p. 81

6.  “A mature Christian finds his or her fulfillment in living faithfully before God–that is, in being a mature person, not in being around a particular person.  Much of our marital dissatisfaction stems in actuality from self-hatred.  We don’t like what we’ve done or become; we’ve let selfish and sinful attitudes poison our thoughts and lead us into shameful behaviors, and suddenly all we want is out.  The mature response, however, is not to leave; it’s to change–ourselves.  Whenever marital dissatisfaction rears its head in my marriage–as it does in virtually every marriage–I simply check my focus.   The times I am happiest and most fulfilled in my marriage are the times when I am intent on drawing meaning and fulfillment from becoming a better husband rather than from demanding a ‘better’ wife.” p. 101

7.  “… the ‘collisions’ of marriage can create relationships of beauty.  Beauty is often birthed in struggle.” p. 128

8.  “To fully sanctify the marital relationship, we must live it together as Jesus lived His life–embracing the discipline of sacrifice and service as a daily practiceIn the same way that Jesus gave His body for us, we are to lay down our energy,, our bodies, and our lives for others.” p. 187

9.  “Marital dissatisfaction, on whatever level, is best met with the prayer, ‘That’s why I need You, O God.’ We are reminded of the transcendent ache in our soul that even this one very special person can’t relieve entirely on his or her own.” p. 237

10.  “A spiritually alive marriage will remain a marriage of two individuals in pursuit of a common vision outside of themselves.” p. 255

Q4U:  What’s the best book you have read on the subject or marriage or relationships?

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The Sweet Spot


On Tuesday nights, my man and I share a sweet spot.  We grab our chairs and sit for a spell on a park bridge overlooking an inlet.  The waves quiet my soul, and a lighthouse serves as a backdrop for birds flittering by and boats skipping on the water.

We don’t say much.  We hold hands.  We follow the path of a pelican as it hunts after fish, and we laugh as the wind blows my hair all topsy-turvy.

On days when life crashes in, this view breathes life into our weary souls.


Q4U:  What’s your sweet spot?

My one-word focus for the year is “fruitilicious.”  Find out what that means here.

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Five Minute Friday

Get Your Pom Poms Ready

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Some days my battle weary husband straggles in the front door with brooding eyes, slumped shoulders, and a defeated countenance.  The world beats him up and tosses him around unmercifully.  Condemning voices have taken up residence in his head.  Negative circumstances and pesky people war against my man and rob him of energy, joy, and peace.

Once he crosses the door, he is in my territory.  I create the setting he comes home to – and I have learned that I need to be purposeful in planning and creating the right ambience.  In my home, I have determined to play the part of President of his Fan Club.  I am his chief cheerleader…

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Holding On

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Do you remember your first rollercoaster ride?  Slowly, you inch up and up until only sky surrounds you.  You are perched at the top of the world, and the sun shines brightly.  Then, all of sudden, your life topples over, and you plummet down fast and hard.  Before you can catch your breath, everything starts spinning sideways.  Suddenly, you are moving up and down and around.  You have no idea where you started, but you know that the ride is not over.  Hanging upside down and holding on tight, you have lost all sense of direction.

Sometimes, marriage reminds me of my first rollercoaster ride…

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