Lessons Learned in 3D — Reserved

My doctor left her practice, so today I made a visit to my new doctor — a Vietnamese physician that my husband has seen for years.   As I drove to work afterward, I realized why this medic gets along well with my man.  You see, what troubled me about the appointment was that my doctor was not “chatty.”  I am a verbal person.  This Cuban girl talks with her hands and tells long stories with many tangents.  Dr. Le was all business.  He spoke in monosyllables.   My introverted husband finds the doctor’s reserved bedside manner very appealing.  I might need a bit more convincing…

It always amazes me how people with different temperaments interact.  Being an outgoing person married to a shy guy requires making some complicated dance moves — we are still learning the right steps.  We are still learning each other’s rhythms.

Be encouraged this week as you rub shoulders with that “not like you” personality… Their strengths will meld with your weaknesses.  You will learn to walk to the same beat if you stay on the dance floor.  It’s worth the effort.

Here in no particular order are ten things this “chatty girl” learned from listening to others this week:

1.  Apparently, Big Mama and I are on the same wave length this week.  Last Sunday, I shared how God spoke to me about a  light potentiometer, and yesterday, Melanie shared about “The Light of His Grace” over at Ann’s  A Holy Experience blog:

“I don’t know if any of us

have the capability or the comprehension

to ever fully grasp the love of God. It’s too big.

But I know that the only way we’ll ever grow

and become what He has called us to be

is when we expose ourselves to the light. 

That’s where we bloom.”

2.  Laura at Missional Women helped me see how I could organize a prayer retreat for a group of friends.  I love this resource:  “Mosaic Prayer Experience.”

3. “I am not the Savior of the World” — Melanie at Unexpected “tells it like it is” in her post “Ten Things You Need to Know Before Going on a Missions Trip.” 

4.  I am learning that I need to build quiet space into my week to breathe new life into my spirit and to listen to God.  I love these practical ideas about how to celebrate the Sabbath provided by Jean at Healthy Spirituality.

5.  I was a single gal until I was in my early 40’s.  One of the best pieces of advice someone gave me about looking for a mate was that “time is a great revealer of things.”  You learn a lot about a guy by interacting with him in many settings and with many types of people.  I am realizing now that this holds true for friendships as well.  How do your friends treat others in their circle of influence?  I love how Felicia explains this concept to singles in her post  for Start Marriage Right.

6.  Kristin at Moments in the Story wrote a beautiful guest post titled “Love and Cough Drops” for (in) courage that explained how we must put love into action.  (If you are a mom, you will love the story she shares about her four-year old.)

7.  Laura at The Wellspring reminded me that each new day is teeming with new possibilities — anything is possible.  I love her post “When You Oughta Get Your Eyes Examined.”  (Keep jumping, Laura!)

8.  Angie Smith at Bring the Rain is one of my favorite writersReading her blog brought me a great deal of healing during a difficult season and inspired me to become a blogger myself.  I love how she unpacks the phrase “The Joy of the Lord is my Strength” in her post for (in) courage.

8. Intimacy in marriage is fostered as I intentionally open up my heart, soul, mind, and spirit to my spouse.  Samuel Rainey outlines “Three Ways to Grow Trust and Deepen Intimacy” in this helpful post for Start Marriage Right. 

9.  Kelly from Love Well describes how parents and Christian school teachers must leave room for kids to have their own unique way of  approaching God.  I love what she shares about how she parents in this guest post for Deeper Story

“God is the good stuff, dear things.

I will not force-feed Him to you

to the degree that you no longer taste His sweetness.”

10.  I am thankful I am no longer teaching high school.  May is brutal on teachers, students, parents, and anyone within firing distance.  I love how Jen captures the spirit of borderline insanity in her outrageously witty post “Worst End of School Year Mom Ever.” 

Q4U: What did you learn this week?

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light shines

I married Mr. Microscope.  He fixes things — medical things.  And as his Mrs. Microscope, I try to help out by doing the paperwork that he is not fond of.   So, I learned a little Quick Books from our accountant, and every weekend, I spend about an hour entering data.  After a while, my fingers get into a rhythm:  “Routine Service.  Olympus CHT binocular microscope.  Noted no significant findings.  Image quality is good at this time.”

Tonight, however, God spoke to me clearly as I was typing out an invoice.  This specific piece of equipment had some “issues” apparently.  I read my husband’s work order description and typed the following:  “Noted unit will not light up and light intensity potentiometer is broken….”

I stopped there.  Oh my!  I immediately pictured a heavenly meter that measured my potential.  I wonder how God would rate my “light intensity” this past week.   I certainly don’t ever want Him to say of me, “This one just won’t light up…”

Thankfully, I know just the place to go when I need a little routine maintenance.  I head to the Holy Spirit shop and get back to the basics — Bible reading, prayer, church attendance, fellowship, and serving others.  All these tools work together to get me back up and shining.

The Living Word is my “potentiometer” — I need to keep examining my light’s effectiveness by looking into the Bible daily and making adjustments as needed.  Paul understood this concept and challenged the church at Philippi to keep shining brightly:

“Go out into the world uncorrupted,

a breath of fresh air in this squalid and polluted society.

Provide people with a glimpse

of good living and of the living God.

Carry the light-giving Message into the night

so I’ll have good cause to be proud of you

on the day that Christ returns.”

Philippians 2:15, MSG

Light up the place, friends.  Life lies ahead, and we are to point the way.  Keep connected to your Power Source.

Q4U:  How do you gauge the effectiveness of your witness?  How do you stay “well lighted” in your spirit?

My one-word focus for the year is “fruitilicious.”  Find out what that means here.

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Lessons Learned in 3D — Memorial Stone

Hello, three-day weekend!  I am happy to see you!!!!

Memorial Day is about remembering.   I am prone to forget.  That’s part of the reason that I put together this weekly Top 10 — to keep a record of how God is working in quiet ways to shape me.  This blog is my “Memorial Stone.”

So, here in no particular order are 10 things I learned this week:

1.  Amanda at Hill and Pen gave me permission to have fun at work.  I love her post “Top Ten Ways to Laugh More at Work.” 

2.  This week, I shared how spouses need to “Get our pom poms ready.”   Lisa with Club31 Women expands on this idea in her guest post at The Time-Warp Wife.  I love her sage advice in “The Best Move You Can Make in Your Marriage.” 

3.  This week Lisa at Lisa’s Notes  and I both wrote about how God longs to sprout up some fruit in the “Dirt.”  Her post “Up By the Roots” reminded me that I need to make room for good things to grow in my heart.

4.  God forgives everything. I love how Michelle explains this to her son here.

5.  Deidra at Jumping Tandem highlights how everybody is welcome in her fabulous post “Pentecost + Abercrombie & Fitch”:

Pentecost said, “You! Yes, you!

You’re invited! Put your dancing shoes on!”

6.  I did not want to turn my TV on this week.  Some days there aren’t enough tears.   Jennifer said it best:  “We are all Oklahomans this week.” 

7.  Favorite Quote this week is this little gem I discovered on my friend Becca’s Facebook page:

Don’t you know that day dawns after night,

showers displace drought,

and spring and summer follow winter?

Then have hope!

Hope forever, for God will not fail you!

– Charles Spurgeon

8.  Prayer brings healing.  I love this prayer based on Mark 4 shared by the Presbyterian Mission Agency:

Prayer For Peace Amidst The Storm

Living God, our refuge and strength,
even the wind and sea obey Your voice.
Put the wind back in its place,
and say to the sea: Peace! Be still!
Fill us with great faith,
and save us from the surging water,
so that we may tell the Good News of Your saving love;
through Jesus Christ, our hope in the storm.

9. On Thursday nights, I meet with a group of girlfriends to study God’s Word.  This past week, we got on the subject of “dysfunctional family histories,” and the Lord brought to mind a prodigal story I’d heard years before by Jim Cymbala from The Brooklyn Tabernacle Church.  I did a little You Tube search this week and found this gem on-line.  If you are praying for a family member who needs to make peace with God, this will encourage you. (It’s a little long, but he tells an amazing story about his daughter toward the end… so stick with it. You won’t regret it!)

10.  This week Lindsee with Living Proof Ministries opened up a forum here for mentors to share advice (This is a great resource with wonderful wisdom!).  I love how she ended her post:

“The Lord doesn’t always allow us to see the fruit of our labor,

but when He does,

it’s the sweetest, most rewarding gift ever.

Your investment will be worth it, dear friend.

Do not grow weary in doing good!”

Q4U: What did you learn this week?

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The Sweet Spot


On Tuesday nights, my man and I share a sweet spot.  We grab our chairs and sit for a spell on a park bridge overlooking an inlet.  The waves quiet my soul, and a lighthouse serves as a backdrop for birds flittering by and boats skipping on the water.

We don’t say much.  We hold hands.  We follow the path of a pelican as it hunts after fish, and we laugh as the wind blows my hair all topsy-turvy.

On days when life crashes in, this view breathes life into our weary souls.


Q4U:  What’s your sweet spot?

My one-word focus for the year is “fruitilicious.”  Find out what that means here.

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